Comments on: The Careless Language of Sexual Violence http://therumpus.net/2011/03/the-careless-language-of-sexual-violence/ Books, Music, Movies, Art, Politics, Sex, Other Thu, 23 May 2013 02:45:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Mojo http://therumpus.net/2011/03/the-careless-language-of-sexual-violence/comment-page-3/#comment-364226 Mojo Thu, 15 Nov 2012 21:43:28 +0000 http://therumpus.net/?p=74764#comment-364226 Where is the father??? Why is he not hunting down and executing those 18 men??? As a father, I must say that I would have no rest until these men were dead or I was.

]]> By: Helen http://therumpus.net/2011/03/the-careless-language-of-sexual-violence/comment-page-3/#comment-339440 Helen Thu, 21 Jun 2012 04:21:05 +0000 http://therumpus.net/?p=74764#comment-339440 Jenne, it doesn’t matter where the girl’s mother was. Or where her father was. The issue here is the men and boys who raped a child. Her parents are not responsible for that. The rapists are.

]]> By: Kate http://therumpus.net/2011/03/the-careless-language-of-sexual-violence/comment-page-3/#comment-320127 Kate Wed, 02 May 2012 10:59:40 +0000 http://therumpus.net/?p=74764#comment-320127 Thanks so much for addressing such a painful subject, Roxane. My brother is a deputy sheriff who told me that one of his inmates at the jail was arrested and charged with rape, and that the inmate already served 10 years for a prior rape conviction. My brother went on to say that 10 yrs was too tough a penalty. He actually said, “It’s not like he killed someone.” I couldn’t believe he would think of rape in such a casual way. Right now I’m really into watching true crime shows on the ID channel, and I cannot believe how many of the perpetrators in sexual assault/homicide cases have a history of sexually violent behavior. Some of them are child molestors and rapists who’ve only served 5-10 years in prison. Once they get out, they go trolling for subsequent victims. It’s so sick that sex crimes aren’t punished as harshly as they should be.

]]> By: A. Machine http://therumpus.net/2011/03/the-careless-language-of-sexual-violence/comment-page-3/#comment-282981 A. Machine Mon, 13 Feb 2012 16:18:51 +0000 http://therumpus.net/?p=74764#comment-282981 My english professor is having us read this for class- its fantastic. I was unaware of the story until today.
At almost a year later, there should still be an uproar about this.
Thank you for writing and publishing this.

The vast majority of commenters here are females-It would be awesome if more men & boys started being outwardly vocal against rape. This would help to discourage their fellow males from this disgusting behavior and character. It would be helpful and reinforcing to hear it not just from women but from their guy buddies and male authority figures. Rapers & potential rapers should be rebuked, shamed, and violently discouraged from every direction and viewpoint- men and women should be resolutely united on this and all genders should participate in the act of speaking out. It is very encouraging to know about the man who is doing this at TED! thank you to who posted that.

]]> By: Sarah http://therumpus.net/2011/03/the-careless-language-of-sexual-violence/comment-page-3/#comment-233128 Sarah Wed, 30 Nov 2011 10:21:31 +0000 http://therumpus.net/?p=74764#comment-233128 There was a case here in Ireland where a women was raped outside a nightclub. She had passed out after the man, who was described as a pillar of the community, bought her a drink and CCTV had footage of carrying her outside to the car park where he raped her. At his conviction, there was a queue of over fifty townspeople IN THE COURTROOM and in the presence of the victim, to shake his hand and offer condolence.

]]> By: *bob* http://therumpus.net/2011/03/the-careless-language-of-sexual-violence/comment-page-3/#comment-205125 *bob* Wed, 26 Oct 2011 23:37:17 +0000 http://therumpus.net/?p=74764#comment-205125 wonderfully written article, but a request for your book when it comes out. please include a warning about possible triggers. i wont read something with the detail you’ve suggested will be in your book and it would absolutely trigger emotions im not yet ready to deal with.

]]> By: Kate http://therumpus.net/2011/03/the-careless-language-of-sexual-violence/comment-page-3/#comment-204993 Kate Wed, 26 Oct 2011 16:37:31 +0000 http://therumpus.net/?p=74764#comment-204993 Thank you for writing this article. This is one of the most comprehensive articles I’ve read concerning rape culture, I wish everyone could read it.

]]> By: Julie http://therumpus.net/2011/03/the-careless-language-of-sexual-violence/comment-page-3/#comment-194883 Julie Mon, 10 Oct 2011 02:28:01 +0000 http://therumpus.net/?p=74764#comment-194883 I understand the hesitance to say that gang rape is worse than rape. I think it’s just because it sounds too much like what rape apologists say when they say a rape is not that bad if it’s spouse rape or that it’s not that bad if the woman was passed out drunk. But they say those things to make it more acceptable for the rape to happen. Knowing that you are completely on the victims’ side, I think it’s okay to say that a gang rape is way worse. The rape tends to last longer and be more violent. But I think the main thing is that a rape done by a single person is terrible, but you know there are terrible people here and there in the world, so it doesn’t really surprise you that there are rapists out there. What disgusts me about gang rape is that you can find a group of 18 men of all different ages that are willing to participate in something so horrifying. It’s gang rape that makes it so blatantly obvious that a rapist is not just one creepy, disturbed guy hiding in the bushes. Rapists are everyday men (and sadly, boys in this case). All men are fed the idea that a female of any age is there for their sexual gaze and pleasure. And we have no idea of knowing which ones actually buy into it until they act on what they’ve been taught.

]]> By: baidu123 http://therumpus.net/2011/03/the-careless-language-of-sexual-violence/comment-page-3/#comment-174192 baidu123 Thu, 08 Sep 2011 12:18:32 +0000 http://therumpus.net/?p=74764#comment-174192 It will take courage to lead an existence. Any life.

]]> By: davidk http://therumpus.net/2011/03/the-careless-language-of-sexual-violence/comment-page-3/#comment-132890 davidk Mon, 18 Apr 2011 20:54:58 +0000 http://therumpus.net/?p=74764#comment-132890 At this late date, I simply wanted to thank you for this fine article. A friend steered me to this article during a chat about offensive retail advertising.

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