Comments on: Notes From a Unicorn

By: Elle

Elle — Sat, 22 Sep 2012 04:12:04 +0000

Thank you for this. I’ve never read anything as honest as this before, and it really made me feel less alone.

By: robs

robs — Sat, 22 Sep 2012 04:08:08 +0000

Yes! Thank you thank you. Wonderfully written and truthful. I related so much to it. I’ve tried to make myself one or the other, I’ve been asked if I’ve made up my mind yet, I’ve definitely let people make assumptions, I’ve had people ask me “so how bi are you?” which… I don’t even know what that means or what they’re looking for as an answer, I’ve been asked if it’s “just a sexual thing with girls?” I’ve had people, gay and straight, tell me that bisexuals are greedy which doesn’t make sense to me, and they always say it like they’re the first person to think of it when it’s this idea floating around that, when really looked at, doesn’t make any sense.

Shout out for bi guys- it was indirectly because of a bi guy that I discovered there even was something to be besides gay or straight. I was raised in a very conservative evangelical home, confused and scared of my own feelings, and rather sheltered. So in high school when my friend told me that the guy who had a crush on me was bi I said “what’s that?” and when she told me it was like a curtain being drawn back… whoa! you CAN be that? It’s weird how I knew my own desires but until I learned there was a word for them I didn’t realize they could be…. possible? legitimate? I was still worried about the religious stuff and anxiously closeted, but my world shifted in a big way with just that one little micro-conversation which my friend probably doesn’t even remember.

By: David

David — Sat, 12 May 2012 00:53:30 +0000

I was left wondering the same thing as Javier…More seriously, without sounding too earnest, you helped me understand the bi view better than all the politically correct rhetoric I have read or heard over the years. Have a seat – wherever you like.

By: Javier

Javier — Thu, 10 May 2012 01:38:03 +0000

Wait… I’m lost, did you ever get to hook-up with Mark???

By: Julia

Julia — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 14:22:13 +0000

“I’m sitting right here.” I love that. I’m sitting right here, too.

By: l'enfant sauvage

l'enfant sauvage — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 05:31:00 +0000

Thank you so much for writing this. I have struggled with this for over a decade, I get tired of not fitting in anywhere, and I get tired of minorities discriminating within minorities. I want all bisexuals to be out and proud. Normalize it. It’s not always a “stepping stone”, it’s not because we are confused, it really does exist and I want the world to know about it.

By: lenoxus

lenoxus — Sun, 08 Apr 2012 20:51:44 +0000

whoops. i thought my “what if” there made it clear that i was being sarcastic, but anyway… i was being sarcastic. my point is that because people don’t get confused or angry that someone has the potential to be in a relationship with anyone of those other categories, they also shouldn’t get confused or angry about bisexuality, because sex is merely one of many ways to group types of people.

By: Deva

Deva — Sun, 08 Apr 2012 18:16:21 +0000

@lenoxus

It’s not about making up ones mind. And why should anyone have to? Nor is it about balancing it for others or for an image. I like what I like and that happens to be more than most people like and I’m not going to apologize for that or try to change it or pretend otherwise to fit into yours or society’s expectations or need for categorization. It doesn’t mean I’m any less considerate of those I spend my time with, it doesn’t mean I can’t be happily monogamous with a single person. It’s not about their style, their hair color, or even their gender. It’s about the individual. If I meet someone I like, I don’t care if they’re man or woman, blond or brunette, tall or short. It’s about their personality more than anything, and yes physical attraction (of which there are endless varieties) certainly helps.

By: lenoxus

lenoxus — Sat, 07 Apr 2012 05:07:38 +0000

weird, it seems like my being straight may have contributed in the tiniest of ways to my being more tolerant, in a small area. i mean, i’ve been aware if the whole Kinsey spectrum for most of my life (I’m a 1 at most), knowing people of almost every queeritude out there, and only today (shortly prior to having come to this page) did i become acquainted with the existence of this stigma. i sort of get why it exists but yeesh. until today the label “bi” carried little baggage for me. i need to clear that out somehow…

what if people cared as much about which hair color you find attractive? after all, some people prefer blondes, some brunettes, some redheads. but if you’re attracted to two or three of those, then, sorry, excuse me, but… how the hell does that work? like, you’re just going to leave me for some black-haired chick, yes? what does it even mean to say “i like green eyes AND brown eyes” or “i’m open to dating vegetarians AND mean eaters”? what’s stopping you from MAKING UP YOUR MIND? besides, you’re probably unwilling to admit how much you love the really stigmatized groups, like geeks, so you’re tempering that by claiming to like non-geeks “at the same time” (whatever that could possibly mean).

By: Deva

Deva — Thu, 29 Mar 2012 02:06:04 +0000

Thank you for this. For being so candid and eloquent. I recently came out bi and it’s been a very complicated, exciting, and often painful few months. I can relate to everything you’re saying. From the unexpectedly negative responses of gay crushes, to girlfriends assuming that it means you’re going sneak off to suck dick, to the difficulty in finding your “community”, to all the questions and doubts from friends, acquaintances and even ones self. This is very powerful and resonates deeply with me. Again, thank you.