Comments on: How a Wound Heals

By: sarahdub

sarahdub — Fri, 03 May 2013 06:15:45 +0000

@leamur, sorry if I hurt your feelings, but you were just the perfect encapsulation of someone who thinks they’re being empathetic when in fact they’re deeply racist and ugly (really? a “yellow” person can’t understand these issues?). Good riddance to you.

By: sarahdub

sarahdub — Wed, 24 Apr 2013 06:08:00 +0000

Oh @Leamur, you are the type of brain dead feminist that wants to divide the world by race (good luck with that) and only accept those with the same definition of feminism as you. But there’s strength in diversity — real diversity, not just the whining, whinnying, weak and super-annoying version of victim-mentality you’ve adopted as your life’s purpose. We used to call people like you fascists. Now we just call you irrelevant.

By: LeaMur

LeaMur — Tue, 19 Mar 2013 23:47:00 +0000

SARAHDUB I can definitely fathom that you disagree with me and I never said (or thought) you were trying to defend the tweet. I guess you got me on the mistake of caring so specifically about your skin color – I should have probably just said “not black”. What’s also insulting is you as a “yellow” person thinking you get to decide what should be important to black women and what shouldn’t. A black woman wrote a whole article about what was important to her and instead of trying to have empathy and understanding on an issue you cannot ever have personally experienced, you decided indulge in literary criticism and essentially dismiss her. And I’M Bill O’Reilly? I also think it’s a really good example of missing the bigger picture. Feminists make the mistake waaaaay too often of deciding that we have “bigger fish to fry” than problems that affect women of color (even “yellow” ones). But you’re entitled to be as condescending and dismissive as you want, so we can keep this up or just agree to disagree. I personally feel like us talking to one another any further is kinda pointless because I have my mind made up about your post and your attitude, but if you feel like something productive can come out of talking to me go for it.

By: sarahdub

sarahdub — Mon, 18 Mar 2013 19:55:25 +0000

LEAMUR, I did read the article, I just disagree with you. Can you fathom that? Also, I’m not white, I’m yellow. Also, why don’t you continue that strategy of dividing women by their skin color, since that’s worked so well in the past. Hell, you could have also written, “I bet you’re light-skinned”. Get over yourself, lady. I wasn’t defending the tweet — in fact, even the Onion try that. Rather, I said that this is a sideshow, a nothing, a way to divide each other further and be distracted from real issues. And yeah, I think the prose in this piece was a little saccharine.
So yes, I disagreed, and to you that somehow means I don’t look outside myself. But I do. I see the big picture. And this tweet and it’s meaning was over-valued, and now, a few weeks later, you can hopefully see that we women have much much bigger fish to fry. So please, if you want to debate my argument, go ahead. But if you want to judge me by my skin you are basically Bill O’Reilly.

By: MJ

MJ — Sat, 02 Mar 2013 01:56:20 +0000

“Young women in Hollywood cannot win, no matter what they do.”

Jennifer Lawrence is winning pretty good. This is before the Oscar win. It’s a perspective, a state of mind. How much of that is “coaching” we’ll never be sure. But from the vibe, I think she’s just her, and when she’s acting more restrained and “proper”, it is more coaching then anything, and then you see that “properness” fade away into her true personality.

The “Q tweet” was dumb as shit; I’ll give you that. But it was also pretty funny, because it was actually said. That is funny because it shows how limited one’s perception is. Although I consider the tweet a lesser offense…

People believe that jokes hold truth in them. So when comics perform acts that poke fun at specific demographics (like you said, there are certain demos that are ALWAYS the butt of jokes), people think there’s some semblance of truth, that the majority of said demographic is this way, and the minority is the exception. That is the Cultural Disease. Human culture, that is. What can you, we, do about it?

You attack this in the schools. Young kids. We were young once. And now look at us — we’re in positions to say things and people listen, do things in the streets/communities and cause change. It will take time, but you start with the young ones.

Makes it difficult when the government is allowing education to lapse. When they’ll be showing Lincoln in schools to give a distorted view of history. But it’s possible. We can change things.

By: Alyssa

Alyssa — Fri, 01 Mar 2013 17:56:56 +0000

Thank you Roxane.
Your put into words the many things I have been struggling to verbalize when I get frustrated at our culture and women.

By: Maya

Maya — Thu, 28 Feb 2013 21:42:22 +0000

As a muslim woman of color I’ve had my fair share of racist comments in the name of humor. Thank you for this article.

By: LeaMur

LeaMur — Thu, 28 Feb 2013 04:12:40 +0000

SARAH DUB you clearly did not really read the article. Yes, the tweet by the Onion was discussed but it wasn’t the driving point of the article. And by clearly not giving a shizzle about any point of view other than your own small, ignorant, and uninformed one in MY opinion, YOU have contributed to the “white noise” plus rape culture. Congrats misogynist! Also let me guess: you are white.

By: j

Thu, 28 Feb 2013 01:32:41 +0000

Well said.

By: David Shapiro

David Shapiro — Wed, 27 Feb 2013 23:22:21 +0000

I don’t know how you do it, Roxane, how you manage to persist in such a harsh and cruel world. You are an inspiration to women all over the world, especially women in Third World nations who have no voice, who are murdered and tortured for nothing more than the crime of being a woman. Your strength and patience and sheer will to go on, to write, to live, is a testament to the power of the indomitable human spirit. Your words made me cry. I read them to my mother and they made her cry, too. Even my father, who can be detached and casually cynical on even the best of days, was moved, literally, from the couch, to embrace me. I haven’t gotten a hug like that from my father since I was 6 and was in the hospital for pneumonia, an event which has left me with scars to this day in the form of mild PTSD. But these scars, when compared to your wounds, are nothing more than paper cuts. As someone who was made fun of as a little boy, for my long eyelashes, which gave me a decidedly feminine air, and for which I was persecuted, mercilessly, until I hit my teenage years, I can more than empathize with what you are going through. I had a feeling that MacFarlane was doing serious damage on Sunday night, but I really had no idea how much damage he was doing, not until I read your words. To think that while I was gobbling down pizza that there was someone literally writing around in pain at what was transpiring on the television? Well, it leaves me speechless, or, rather, it left me speechless, until I read your words, which, like jumper cables, snapped me out of my catatonia and gave me back the power of speech. I have made myself a promise, and it is a promise I am making to you, that I will never be quiet again, that I will do my share to rid the world of overgrown Frat-Bros like MacFarlane. I’m sure you know that this is an almost impossible task, as men like MacFarlane are a dime a dozen, but something has to be done, must be done. Thank you for galvanizing me, and I hope to meet you one day on the Front Lines.