Posts Tagged: Sex
I’m not really sure how our culture has arrived at the mutually exclusive relationship between Motherhood and Sexuality, especially since in most cases, women become mothers by having sex.
Fortifying the old adage “the mind is a wonderful servant, but a terrible master,” Rumpus intern Ashley Perez wrote an article for The Weeklings about her sexual unfolding. It begins with mental shackles and ends with physical ones.
The pain, the embarrassment of never being able to orgasm, was also my fault.
What would it look like to slut shame a middle-aged, heterosexual man? The Anthony Weiner scandal is giving us a clue....more
Emotions tend to run high around controversial confessional writer Marie Calloway’s blunt descriptions of sex, but few have discussed her exploration of sex work.
Enter sex-worker blog Tits & Sass, where two editors had a conversation about the feelings of recognition (and, sometimes, second-hand embarrassment) they had while reading about Calloway’s adventures as a “newbie hooker.”
It’s well worth a read, even if you think you’ve had enough Calloway coverage....more
“Sex does not happen in a vacuum immune to outside structural influences,” writes Jillian Horowitz in a piece titled “Unpopular Opinion: I’m A Sex-Negative Feminist.” “[I]n fact, it can (and does) replicate inescapable systems of power and dominance.”
“Unpopular opinion” indeed, but hear her out....more
This is what my parents told me about sex: nothing. Not one word. Ever....more
It takes two years before Bob shows his gun collection to me. The guns are in the corner closet of a room I’ve slept in over thirty times. He opens the slatted door with a key, and one by one, he pulls out latched wooden boxes, heavy velvet bags, and cardboard boxes of bullets...more
Well, this is interesting: “…for most of Western history, from ancient Greece to beginning of the nineteenth century, women were assumed to be the sex-crazed porn fiends of their day.”
Alyssa Goldstein chronicles the process by which that stereotype flipped all the way around—and why both its iterations have been bad for women....more
Steve Almond’s Writs of Passion is “the best Valentine’s gift money can buy,” at least according to About.com (and us!).
About.com guide Corey Silverberg interviewed Almond about pleasure, emotional danger, and how to write sex scenes.
…even if we do enjoy sex, we find all kinds of ways to punish ourselves for that pleasure.
In her dorm, Kisha undid my jeans. Her finger held the tab of my zipper. I heard the teeth release. My pants caught around my ankles as Kisha’s hand slipped under the elastic of my briefs. I snatched her wrist, holding her from going further....more
There’s a soundtrack for when I’m about to fall in love with a girl. That precious gap of time between getting to know each other physically and mentally before diving in the pool of vulnerability and embracing love and commitment.
Laying in bed, talking, cuddling, kissing, ravishing....more