“The Delusion That Women Couldn’t Hurt Me”


Our rock-star essays editor Roxane Gay kills it again, this time with an essay at Autostraddle about the women she’s loved and how her queerness shaped her life.

Here’s a little snippet of her writing and its understated power:

I told them the one thing that might finally sever the bond between us. It’s not that I didn’t want my parents in my life but I did not know how to be broken and be the daughter they thought they knew. I blurted out, “I’m gay.” This, too, shames me, not my queerness, but how little faith I put in them and how warped my understanding of queerness was.

Lauren O'Neal is an MFA student at San Francisco State University. Her writing has appeared in publications like Slate, The New Inquiry, and The Hairpin. You can follow her on Twitter at @laureneoneal. More from this author →