For Slate, Amanda Hess examines yet another first-person confessional: sexual assault victim Jenny Kutner’s essay “The Other Side of the Story,” published in Texas Monthly.
The power of Kutner’s story is that it lends insight into a particular type of victimization—the kind that happens when the victim doesn’t see herself as one.
Kutner’s essay demonstrates how, in addition to the life lessons she unwittingly learned at the hand of her predatory teacher, she has also learned to write, and write well, somewhere along the way.
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my girlfriend was sexually assaulted while asleep and highly intoxicated.It happened at my sister’s birthday event after a late night gathering.When she was coherent enough to acknowledge she was having sex with someone she thought that it was me at first.This is where it gets bizarre and i need answers? she realizes it is not me and she doesn’t stop having sex, falls in and out of conciousness but still continues in the act.She even performs felatio on this guy, who was cheating on his own girlfriend as she lays 3 feet away on a different couch.Then my girlfriend falls asleep only to wake up and ask him where all her clothes were.She falls asleep again and wakes up to being the only person in the basement.Here is the really bizarre part which is 2 weeks later she is flirting with the same guy who sexually assaulted her and doing it infront of all of my relatives at a Christmas party.Again highly intoxicated! She confessed to me about kissing him at the Christmas party but i had this gut feeling that wouldn’t go away.I pretty much told her everyday i know there is more to it because she blocked him on my Fb account.She also slipped up and added him to the list of men she slept with when we were speaking one night.I knew more happened and one day she couldn’t take my suspicions anymore.She told me she had sex with the guy! she cried and said she thought it was me and she was so drunk.We called my sister and asked her what she remembered and she said my girlfriend was sleeping for 45 minutes before she left.I know my girl was assaulted and i know she cheated.But i don’t know why? besides telling me she is lying please tell me the reasons she would do something like that and if there is any information about attachment to an abuser.This man was charged a few days ago for sexual assault and he already admitted to having sex with a girl who was very drunk.
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