Interviews

We’ve all had that feeling where we’ve felt unseen. I think that’s a big part of this book. Maybe what was taken away from us was attention.

Each adoptee has experiences that make their story unique. It’s important to understand that adoption is not a one-size-fits-all kind of situation.

I think every parent trying to protect their child wants to be the bulletproof vest. At the same time, we also know that we shouldn’t necessarily protect them wholly.

I feel like when you write a book like this, people just expect you to know so many things. What I wanted to get into the book was this idea of searching.

One of the two great powers of writing fiction is the capacity to invent, to activate the imagination and access realities unlike our own

By contextualizing my experience, I hoped to offer new dimensions to the conversation around adoption.

Do I want to be writing the way that I think literary fiction ought to be written? That’s starting to not seem so interesting to me anymore.

Some of my favorite moments and scenes are when characters do something surprising that bends toward humor or something selfless that reaches for connection.

There’s truth in everything we write, but there’s a lot of fabrication and fantasy, and you don’t have that freedom with science.

Just as my body that might ache all night is the same body that gives me pleasure. And I feel it aching because I am alive and living in it.

We believe we grant access to our lives to others; I think that is an illusion.

Being affected in those ways can give us motivation to make sure that other people aren’t hurt in the same ways that we’ve been hurt.