Posts Tagged: sex
Emotions tend to run high around controversial confessional writer Marie Calloway’s blunt descriptions of sex, but few have discussed her exploration of sex work.
Enter sex-worker blog Tits & Sass, where two editors had a conversation about the feelings of recognition (and, sometimes, second-hand embarrassment) they had while reading about Calloway’s adventures as a “newbie hooker.”
It’s well worth a read, even if you think you’ve had enough Calloway coverage....more
“Sex does not happen in a vacuum immune to outside structural influences,” writes Jillian Horowitz in a piece titled “Unpopular Opinion: I’m A Sex-Negative Feminist.” “[I]n fact, it can (and does) replicate inescapable systems of power and dominance.”
“Unpopular opinion” indeed, but hear her out....more
Certainly, women are no better suited for monogamy than men are. That, I think, is clear. It seems possible, if you look at some of the data, that women are even less well-suited for monogamy than men.
Salon‘s Tracy Clark-Flory interviews Daniel Bergner about What Do Women Want?...more
Well, this is interesting: “…for most of Western history, from ancient Greece to beginning of the nineteenth century, women were assumed to be the sex-crazed porn fiends of their day.”
Alyssa Goldstein chronicles the process by which that stereotype flipped all the way around—and why both its iterations have been bad for women....more
I was not surprised to see that a large number of reviews took issue not with the writing or the plot or the structure, but with the main character’s sexuality; but even I was startled by the vitriol of many of them, the insistence that a story about a girl who fucks cannot be a story with any value at all....more
Steve Almond’s Writs of Passion is “the best Valentine’s gift money can buy,” at least according to About.com (and us!).
About.com guide Corey Silverberg interviewed Almond about pleasure, emotional danger, and how to write sex scenes.
…even if we do enjoy sex, we find all kinds of ways to punish ourselves for that pleasure.
There’s a soundtrack for when I’m about to fall in love with a girl. That precious gap of time between getting to know each other physically and mentally before diving in the pool of vulnerability and embracing love and commitment.
Laying in bed, talking, cuddling, kissing, ravishing....more
However I came to possess the magazine, I looked at it often, if with a smoldering shame. Unlike what I could find on television, the pictures were clear and shiny, and seeing women in bikinis showed me parts of the female body I had never seen before—the dimpled lower back, the tendon in the crook between inner thigh and crotch....more
In writing about the “complexities of desire, objectification and fetishization,” Vivienne Chen gives the Rumpus some love....more
Sarah Woolley takes a closer look at boundary-pushing on film, and articulates why she winces through Hollywood sex scenes and not porn.
“…Being mindful of what media we consume, in all its guises, helps us decide what works well with our values. It’s a mindfulness that can be informed by information but never aesthetics....more
“As a novelist you are in a God-like relation to what you create. You are omnipotent and the question of potency is embarrassing for men....more
“Who will protect us in this town, I think. There are skinheads and KKK people and bullies. There are dogs that run snarling to the edge of their yards when you walk home and stare too long at them. There are jocks and racists and homophobes and Christian crazies and angry teachers and this school, this whole school is crazy and I’m burning like a bright moving speck of fire every single day.”...more