Posts Tagged: sex
Fortifying the old adage “the mind is a wonderful servant, but a terrible master,” Rumpus intern Ashley Perez wrote an article for The Weeklings about her sexual unfolding. It begins with mental shackles and ends with physical ones.
The pain, the embarrassment of never being able to orgasm, was also my fault.
Writer Elissa Wald chats about noir-infused novellas, taking sex seriously in your work, the pop culture explosion of BDSM, and the erotic power of service....more
Writer David Schickler talks about his memoir The Dark Path, the equal pulls of religion and sex, and why having a sense of humor matters....more
Porn star, writer, performance artist, social worker, and activist Dylan Ryan sheds light on her positive experiences as a sex worker and advocates for the empowerment of women in the porn industry....more
I hate it when men talk about Mary Gaitskill. I call for a permanent moratorium on men gassily discoursing on Mary Gaitskill....more
Ashley Cardiff, author of the recently-published Night Terrors: Sex, Dating, Puberty and Other Alarming Things, talks to us about the challenges of the sexy memoir, privacy, style, and poses the question of whether or not Axl Rose counts as a recluse....more
What would it look like to slut shame a middle-aged, heterosexual man? The Anthony Weiner scandal is giving us a clue....more
Emotions tend to run high around controversial confessional writer Marie Calloway’s blunt descriptions of sex, but few have discussed her exploration of sex work.
Enter sex-worker blog Tits & Sass, where two editors had a conversation about the feelings of recognition (and, sometimes, second-hand embarrassment) they had while reading about Calloway’s adventures as a “newbie hooker.”
It’s well worth a read, even if you think you’ve had enough Calloway coverage....more
“Sex does not happen in a vacuum immune to outside structural influences,” writes Jillian Horowitz in a piece titled “Unpopular Opinion: I’m A Sex-Negative Feminist.” “[I]n fact, it can (and does) replicate inescapable systems of power and dominance.”
“Unpopular opinion” indeed, but hear her out....more
I wanted to present three complicated portraits that raise important questions, not just about what it means to be a porn performer, but what it means to be a sexually open woman...more
This is what my parents told me about sex: nothing. Not one word. Ever....more
Porn was always stronger than me, and it still is....more
Being a whore was great preparation for being an artist....more
It takes two years before Bob shows his gun collection to me. The guns are in the corner closet of a room I’ve slept in over thirty times. He opens the slatted door with a key, and one by one, he pulls out latched wooden boxes, heavy velvet bags, and cardboard boxes of bullets...more
Well, this is interesting: “…for most of Western history, from ancient Greece to beginning of the nineteenth century, women were assumed to be the sex-crazed porn fiends of their day.”
Alyssa Goldstein chronicles the process by which that stereotype flipped all the way around—and why both its iterations have been bad for women....more
I was not surprised to see that a large number of reviews took issue not with the writing or the plot or the structure, but with the main character’s sexuality; but even I was startled by the vitriol of many of them, the insistence that a story about a girl who fucks cannot be a story with any value at all....more
Steve Almond’s Writs of Passion is “the best Valentine’s gift money can buy,” at least according to About.com (and us!).
About.com guide Corey Silverberg interviewed Almond about pleasure, emotional danger, and how to write sex scenes.
…even if we do enjoy sex, we find all kinds of ways to punish ourselves for that pleasure.
Because I’ve devoted perhaps eighty percent of my adult waking hours to thinking about sex, and it seems dishonest to pretend otherwise in my work....more
In her dorm, Kisha undid my jeans. Her finger held the tab of my zipper. I heard the teeth release. My pants caught around my ankles as Kisha’s hand slipped under the elastic of my briefs. I snatched her wrist, holding her from going further....more
There’s a soundtrack for when I’m about to fall in love with a girl. That precious gap of time between getting to know each other physically and mentally before diving in the pool of vulnerability and embracing love and commitment.
Laying in bed, talking, cuddling, kissing, ravishing....more
I felt like an arrow of sheer desire, flying through the air in a small town and emblazoned with this unfortunate tag line: “Newly single mother of a dying baby.”...more
However I came to possess the magazine, I looked at it often, if with a smoldering shame. Unlike what I could find on television, the pictures were clear and shiny, and seeing women in bikinis showed me parts of the female body I had never seen before—the dimpled lower back, the tendon in the crook between inner thigh and crotch....more
I developed my first and only porn star crush on Princess Donna. I watched her videos and read her blog and imagined that one day we would meet and she would publicly disgrace me like she publicly disgraced models....more
In writing about the “complexities of desire, objectification and fetishization,” Vivienne Chen gives the Rumpus some love....more