Sex, Drugs, Rock ‘n Roll, and Bondage

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NOFX bassist Fat Mike spoke with Noisey about his S&M lifestyle, a choice often viewed as socially unacceptable. He sees BDSM individuals as facing many of the same challenges as the LGBTQIA community, though without the support of a community:

It’s so unfair because the transgender, bisexual, gay, and lesbian communities have their groups. They’re all together. They’re all considered one gender or sexual minority. They all lobby together and the BDSM community is not invited ever. [Laughs] And yeah there is a big community and my girlfriend is a big part of that. She teaches classes and she’s very prominent in that community. Society really does not accept BDSM and it does have a negative connotation.

Fat Mike minored in human sexuality in college and for a time even considered a career as a sex therapist. He adds that the main reason he and his girlfriend don’t live a 24/7 S&M lifestyle is that he has kids.


Ian MacAllen's fiction has appeared in 45th Parallel Magazine, Little Fiction, Vol 1. Brooklyn, Joyland Magazine, and elsewhere and nonfiction has appeared in Chicago Review of Books, The Negatives, Electric Literature, Fiction Advocate, and elsewhere. He is the Deputy Editor of The Rumpus, holds an MA in English from Rutgers University, tweets @IanMacAllen and is online at IanMacAllen.com. More from this author →