Mixed Feelings: How to Make Friends after Thirty
The problem is we tend to let romantic love eclipse all else.
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Mandy Len Catron
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Originally from Appalachian Virginia, Mandy Len Catron now lives in Vancouver, British Columbia. Her writing has appeared in the New York Times, the Washington Post, and The Walrus, along with literary journals and anthologies. She writes about love and love stories at The Love Story Project, and she teaches English and creative writing at the University of British Columbia. Her essay collection How to Fall in Love with Anyone was published in 2017.
Mixed Feelings: A Better Version of Love
You are free to love others as if it were a pleasure and a privilege, because that’s exactly what it is.
Mixed Feelings: A Valentine to Aging Women
Letting go of these ideas about a woman’s value feels like the obvious thing to do, but it’s really hard.
Mixed Feelings: How to Trust after Trauma
I don’t believe the problem of rape culture is beyond resolution, but I know that you’re not the one responsible for solving it.
Mixed Feelings: Two Roads Diverged at a Picket Fence
Here we are standing the woods. Which path should we take?
Mixed Feelings: Your Divorce Won’t Ruin Your Kids
Marriage is one way of housing love. But there are a hundred other houses—sometimes you just have to build them yourself.
Mixed Feelings: Am I Too Fat For Love?
We don’t like to think that love traffics in the same biases that shape our culture—but of course it does.
Mixed Feelings: How Do You Break a Heart?
What should love cost us? What do we owe one another? What, especially, do we owe those who have chosen to love and trust us?
Mixed Feelings: Happy Wife, Happy Life
Ending a relationship is hard, but it’s not as hard as quitting an institution. And the thing we often forget about marriage is that it is an institution.
Mixed Feelings: Why Do Men Always Want to Settle Down?
Many women do want to get married, and that’s a perfectly reasonable choice. The problem, then, is that when a woman says she doesn’t want to marry, many people find this hard to believe.
Mixed Feelings: The Emotional Labor of Listening to Men Complain
In the first installment of "Mixed Feelings," a science-based advice column, Mandy Catron offers counsel on handling a partner's obsession with their ex.