Interviews

. . . There is a lot of horror and horrible things about it, but there is also a lot of grace and things that show how strong people can be. It’s really the whole gamut of humanity.

Emotions don’t change, we all know love and joy. We all know pain. We all know “trying to find love.”

Failure is an inevitable part of the process. The faster you get through your failure, the faster you’ll get to the end.

I had to change the parameters of what I thought success was. Success might be a plate of eggs with toast or a talk on the curb. Sometimes the most simple thing is the thing that makes the difference. I

I do think that a stranger’s vantage point can be valuable and create interesting reflections or ideas, but it feels important to doing that in a way that was ethical.

These are writers who didn’t want to hide anymore. Instead, they knew how important it was to share their stories.

We’ve all had that feeling where we’ve felt unseen. I think that’s a big part of this book. Maybe what was taken away from us was attention.

Each adoptee has experiences that make their story unique. It’s important to understand that adoption is not a one-size-fits-all kind of situation.

I think every parent trying to protect their child wants to be the bulletproof vest. At the same time, we also know that we shouldn’t necessarily protect them wholly.

I feel like when you write a book like this, people just expect you to know so many things. What I wanted to get into the book was this idea of searching.

One of the two great powers of writing fiction is the capacity to invent, to activate the imagination and access realities unlike our own

By contextualizing my experience, I hoped to offer new dimensions to the conversation around adoption.