Mixed Feelings: How to Make Friends after Thirty
The problem is we tend to let romantic love eclipse all else.
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Posts Tagged: advice column
Mixed Feelings: A Better Version of Love
You are free to love others as if it were a pleasure and a privilege, because that’s exactly what it is.
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Mixed Feelings: A Valentine to Aging Women
Letting go of these ideas about a woman’s value feels like the obvious thing to do, but it’s really hard.
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Mixed Feelings: Two Roads Diverged at a Picket Fence
Here we are standing the woods. Which path should we take?
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Mixed Feelings: The Power and Limits of Labels
Maybe I’m not bisexual. What am I?
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Mixed Feelings: Am I Too Fat For Love?
We don’t like to think that love traffics in the same biases that shape our culture—but of course it does.
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Mixed Feelings: Happy Wife, Happy Life
Ending a relationship is hard, but it’s not as hard as quitting an institution. And the thing we often forget about marriage is that it is an institution.
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Mixed Feelings: Why Do Men Always Want to Settle Down?
Many women do want to get married, and that’s a perfectly reasonable choice. The problem, then, is that when a woman says she doesn’t want to marry, many people find this hard to believe.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #46: Beauty and the Beast
Dear Sugar, I’m an average twenty-six-year-old man, exceptional only in that I’m writing to an Internet advice columnist and that I’m incredibly ugly. I don’t hate myself, and I don’t have body dysmorphia. I was born with a rare blood disorder that has had its way with my body from a young age. It has […]
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #34: Are You My Mother?
You might lose your heart, honey, but you’ll keep your hat.
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