A Dominant in Lust, Love, and Heartbreak
Being a dominant top in love means an ache—for someone to tend to, to take care of, to steer and supervise, to shape and to set free.
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(K)ink: Writing While Deviant: Tina Horn
I would go so far as to say that the entire reason I write is to detect all the irony that language allows and twist it around the truth like razor wire and ivy. That’s how I like my truth: twisted.
(K)ink: Writing While Deviant: Michael Broder
If I am a sub poet, is poetry as a genre my dom? Is the particular poem I’m working on my dom?
Criminalizing Kink in the UK: The 50 Shades Effect
Last month I reached out to LA-based expat Anna Span, an English porn producer (and one-time Liberal Democrat candidate) who awhile back, fought the UK’s ban on showing female ejaculation…
Thought Crimes, Sexual Fantasies, and “The Cannibal Cop”
Years ago when I worked at a house of domination in NYC’s Chelsea district, there were a handful of clients who were memorable for breaking up the run-of-the-mill fetish (foot…
Beyond Vanilla
Natasha Gornik’s photographs of people involved in New York’s BDSM scene capture the honesty and community that are essential to practicing kink. Check out her work here, and read about…
The Saturday Rumpus Essay: Falling For The Femme Fatale
If power is going to shift toward equality, men have to see power less as an inherent right and more as something we can be incentivized to relinquish.
Mistress Morgana Maye’s Holiday Gift Guide For Perverts
I’ll let you in on a little secret: your sweetie doesn’t want socks or a new Roku.
Sex, Drugs, Rock ‘n Roll, and Bondage
NOFX bassist Fat Mike spoke with Noisey about his S&M lifestyle, a choice often viewed as socially unacceptable. He sees BDSM individuals as facing many of the same challenges as…
The Sunday Rumpus Interview: Madison Young
"That is why the feminist porn movement is so critical. It's not just about changing the way in which porn is made but also advocating for love of our own bodies, advocating for love of our own desires, and our partners’ desires."
The Rumpus Interview with Elissa Wald
Writer Elissa Wald chats about noir-infused novellas, taking sex seriously in your work, the pop culture explosion of BDSM, and the erotic power of service.
What Men Talk About When They Talk About Mary Gaitskill
I hate it when men talk about Mary Gaitskill. I call for a permanent moratorium on men gassily discoursing on Mary Gaitskill.