MariNaomi is the author and illustrator of the graphic memoir Kiss & Tell: A Romantic Resume, Ages 0 to 22 (Harper Perennial, 2011). Visit her website at www.marinaomi.com.More from this author →
I knew a guy who was real concerned about how other people, especially women, saw him. He said he felt women noticed him more if he refrained from masturbating. I could relate to him because we were both single males, I was similar in age to him and because I did not respond to his bravado. But it was hard to get close to him and eventually I left the area. When I made it back about a decade later, I was told he had committed suicide. When I heard, I thought of this, not as a reason, but as a description: the smoke rising from an open fire moves as it lifts and sometimes the wisps form a circle that suddenly pops out of existence.
Whether one knew the person well or not, I think everyone has been faced with that type of situation… and there seems to be no good way to deal with it.
Thanks, you guys! Over the years I’ve often wondered if there was something I could’ve done to avoid all that badness. I’m pretty sure there wasn’t, but I still wonder…
Very thought provoking experience you have created for your audience. Using the comic and then the article really creates incredible emotions. Thanks for sharing this. It makes me think about how I look at homeless people from now on.
May 7th, 2012 at 9:54 pm
Wow.
May 8th, 2012 at 9:09 am
how much of the real him was left inside? i wonder.
May 8th, 2012 at 12:33 pm
I knew a guy who was real concerned about how other people, especially women, saw him. He said he felt women noticed him more if he refrained from masturbating. I could relate to him because we were both single males, I was similar in age to him and because I did not respond to his bravado. But it was hard to get close to him and eventually I left the area. When I made it back about a decade later, I was told he had committed suicide. When I heard, I thought of this, not as a reason, but as a description: the smoke rising from an open fire moves as it lifts and sometimes the wisps form a circle that suddenly pops out of existence.
May 9th, 2012 at 8:25 am
Great comic, Mari. Life can be very brutal.
May 9th, 2012 at 10:05 am
Whether one knew the person well or not, I think everyone has been faced with that type of situation… and there seems to be no good way to deal with it.
May 9th, 2012 at 1:47 pm
Clearly everything and everyone had become ugly to him by that point. Sad.
May 10th, 2012 at 10:47 am
Thanks, you guys! Over the years I’ve often wondered if there was something I could’ve done to avoid all that badness. I’m pretty sure there wasn’t, but I still wonder…
May 15th, 2012 at 2:44 pm
Very thought provoking experience you have created for your audience. Using the comic and then the article really creates incredible emotions. Thanks for sharing this. It makes me think about how I look at homeless people from now on.