And: what we’re talking about, here, really, is intimacy. In order for someone in a relationship to be especially intimate with you, he (or she) has to be less intimate with someone else.
Posts Tagged: advice
Keep a close eye on your Twitter account. Important things may be said there that you will be expected to weigh in on, and if you don’t, everyone will wonder if you fell asleep in the bathroom stall of the bar last night and are still there, head sunken low next to the toilet, one lost contact lens embedded somewhere in the floor grime.
Being the reigning curators of all things empowering and sweet that they are, the people at Rookie got Sleater-Kinney’s Carrie Brownstein and Corin Tucker to act as guest advice gurus on the magazine’s series, “Ask a Grown Woman.” The duo answered questions on coming out, how to turn someone down gently, and first kisses....more
Friday was one of those days where it felt like way too many threads had come unraveled from the thrift-store sweater of my life and were just tangled in an heap of wet yarn at my feet. One of those dreary grey days when I could have used some advice, and maybe a gentle voice saying, “It’ll be ok, sweet pea.” One of those days when I said, to no one in particular, on Twitter, “Do you ever have one of those days when you wish ‘Dear Sugar’ was still around?”
So imagine my surprise when only a few hours later Cheryl Strayed and (original Sugar) Steve Almond announced they were reviving “Dear Sugar” as a podcast....more
John Steinbeck will be remembered as many things – as the author of Of Mice and Men, The Grapes of Wrath, East of Eden, and many other canonical works of American literature, of course. To his son Thom, however, he was a sagacious authority on love, as evinced by this 1958 note taken from a collection of Steinbeck’s letters....more
Advice my father gave me: never take liquor into the bedroom. Don’t stick anything in your ears. Be anything but an architect.
To celebrate Kurt Vonnegut, Maria Popova posted on her Brain Pickings an interesting list of advices the author use to give his children, excerpted from his collection of letters....more
Being the most talented writer doesn’t necessarily translate into publishing success, which really comes from methodical and consistent work rather than raw talent.
Read this and other advice for emerging writers at the Missouri Review‘s blog.
Bonus: The post’s author, Michael Nye, “isn’t nearly as grumpy” as some other advice givers, and indulges in zero “kids these days” grouching....more
Policy Mic has a fun post about the four worst things people tell young writers about writing.
Perhaps the most important of these to disregard is “Good writers always write well”:
Imagine you are someone who has no idea how to play a guitar.
Steve Almond, a longtime Rumpus columnist and the original Dear Sugar before Cheryl Strayed took over, is sharing his two cents again!
This time he’s giving advice every Monday at WBUR in Boston on their site Cognoscenti. The most recent column includes tips on how to inform a “friend” of their body odor and when to start a family....more
An open letter to a very young writer from a not-much-older writer....more
“My point is this—if you want to be happy in showbiz (or any creative field), listen to that voice inside you. Even if it says ‘Fuck it’ sometimes. Work with your friends. Avoid chasing fame or money. Just do what you want to do, when and how you want to do it....more
Hello sweet peas! I decided to whip out a few shortish answers this week instead of the usual longer, single column. There are three of them, all on the subject of sex....more
Although we all talked about keeping in touch, we knew it was really a goodbye dinner....more
“It’s high time you get yourself laid, honey bun. And laid and laid and laid and laid.”...more
WTF, WTF, WTF? I’m asking this question as it applies to everything every day.
My father’s father made me jack him off when I was three and four and five. I wasn’t any good at it....more
My first preschool tour was not a good experience. It was going okay until I realized I had dirty underwear balled into the leg of my pants. At first I thought the back of my leg was swollen, but then I felt the bump slide a little lower and realized what was happening....more
Dear Sugar: FAQ
Q: What sort of advice column is this?
A: If you took all the by-the-book common sense of Dear Abby and the earnest spiritual cheesiness of Cary Tennis and the butt-pluggy irreverence of Dan Savage and the closeted Upper Eastside nymphomania of Miss Manners and crushed them down into a single diamond-hard gem of pedantic know-it-allism, that’s the sort of column that would make Sugar puke.