Posts Tagged: advice

Mixed Feelings: Am I Too Fat For Love?

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We don’t like to think that love traffics in the same biases that shape our culture—but of course it does.

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A Desi Win: Trust No Aunty by Maria Qamar

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What started off as a coping mechanism to deal with the widening generational gap within immigrant families, Qamar has shaped into a new philosophy for cultural in-betweeners.

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Going Off-Script: A Conversation with Mandy Len Catron

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Mandy Len Catron discusses How to Fall in Love with Anyone: A Memoir in Essays, what makes for a thoughtful love story, and the politics of love.

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Mixed Feelings: Happy Wife, Happy Life

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Ending a relationship is hard, but it’s not as hard as quitting an institution. And the thing we often forget about marriage is that it is an institution.

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Mixed Feelings: Why Do Men Always Want to Settle Down?

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Many women do want to get married, and that’s a perfectly reasonable choice. The problem, then, is that when a woman says she doesn’t want to marry, many people find this hard to believe.

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Mixed Feelings: The Emotional Labor of Listening to Men Complain

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In the first installment of “Mixed Feelings,” a science-based advice column, Mandy Catron offers counsel on handling a partner’s obsession with their ex.

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The Rumpus Interview with Sara Benincasa

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Comedian Sara Benincasa opens up about her latest book Real Artists Have Day Jobs, adjusting to success, Venn-diagramming love, and the loss of Morley Safer.

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The Rumpus Interview with Amy Rose Spiegel

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Amy Rose Spiegel discusses her debut memoir, Action: A Book about Sex, carnal confidence, and the nuances of sex-positivity.

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21st Century Magical Realist

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Beyond the obvious fact of when it was written or published, what does it mean for literature to be contemporary? Is a work’s relevance determined by market trends and cultural currents? In her monthly advice column for Electric Literature, Elisa Gabbert allays a writer’s temporally induced anxieties: Magical realism “has been done,” yes, but so […]

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The Sunday Rumpus Interview: Heather Havrilesky

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We are in a chaotic mess of a world, and our lives are going to be chaotic messes no matter how victorious and shiny we manage to become.

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To Cheat or Not to Cheat

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Life coach, Rumpus columnist, and novelist Rick Moody lends his ear to those at the crossroads of love over at Lit Hub. This week, he addresses the unfaithful: And: what we’re talking about, here, really, is intimacy. In order for someone in a relationship to be especially intimate with you, he (or she) has to be less […]

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Advice from Sleater-Kinney

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Being the reigning curators of all things empowering and sweet that they are, the people at Rookie got Sleater-Kinney’s Carrie Brownstein and Corin Tucker to act as guest advice gurus on the magazine’s series, “Ask a Grown Woman.” The duo answered questions on coming out, how to turn someone down gently, and first kisses. It’s adorable. […]

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Mr. Murakami’s Place

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According to the Guardian, Haruki Murakami is soliciting fan questions through the end of January, offering his opinions and advice,” says Shinchosha Publishing, “on how to tackle all manner of difficulties.” The answers will be posted on his website, “Murakami-san no tokoro” or “Mr. Murakami’s place,” throughout February and March.

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More Sunday Links

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Friday was one of those days where it felt like way too many threads had come unraveled from the thrift-store sweater of my life and were just tangled in an heap of wet yarn at my feet. One of those dreary grey days when I could have used some advice, and maybe a gentle voice […]

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John Steinbeck Talks Falling in Love

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John Steinbeck will be remembered as many things – as the author of Of Mice and Men, The Grapes of Wrath, East of Eden, and many other canonical works of American literature, of course. To his son Thom, however, he was a sagacious authority on love, as evinced by this 1958 note taken from a collection of […]

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Advice from Vonnegut

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Advice my father gave me: never take liquor into the bedroom. Don’t stick anything in your ears. Be anything but an architect. To celebrate Kurt Vonnegut, Maria Popova posted on her Brain Pickings an interesting list of advices the author use to give his children, excerpted from his collection of letters.

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Helpful Hints for Emerging Writers

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Being the most talented writer doesn’t necessarily translate into publishing success, which really comes from methodical and consistent work rather than raw talent. Read this and other advice for emerging writers at the Missouri Review‘s blog. Bonus: The post’s author, Michael Nye, “isn’t nearly as grumpy” as some other advice givers, and indulges in zero “kids […]

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Fuck It

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“My point is this—if you want to be happy in showbiz (or any creative field), listen to that voice inside you. Even if it says ‘Fuck it’ sometimes. Work with your friends. Avoid chasing fame or money. Just do what you want to do, when and how you want to do it. And if it’s […]

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