If you’re anything like me, after you’ve finished reading an article, you head straight for the comments section to see what your fellow human beings have to say.

I recently spent a chunk of my afternoon reading a seven-page article in The New York Times, “Married, with Infidelities,” by Mark Oppenheimer, in which he interviews sex-advice columnist Dan Savage, who recommends that couples in monogamous relationships talk openly about cheating and non-monogamy, because no relationship is “one-size fits all” and monogamy may not be right for everyone.