“Last year a friend came to stay with me for a night, when he was between apartments. […]
“Now I enjoy weird, unresolved sexual tension as much as the next person who makes a living writing about sex and relationships, but sometimes it was just not fun and frankly inappropriate. He’s kind of an inappropriate guy in general, which is sort of his charm. He’s a funny, witty, outrageous soul. Still there were moments I needed him to be simply my friend, and there was never a time when I saw him when I did not get the feeling that he was thinking, ‘I fucked that girl once.’ Not in a dreamy, sensual way, but in a proprietary way. And there is nothing I like less than the feeling of being owned.”
Author Jami Attenberg on ex-lovers as friends, open relationships, giant arms crushing you, and ex-lovers as not friends.
