When Katherine Losse’s The Boy Kings, a book about the sexist culture she encountered while working at Facebook during its early days, came out, Melissa Gira Grant paid attention.

Grant had worked for a Silicon Valley gossip blog during the same time period and had come to her own dismayed conclusions about women’s roles in the tech industry.

In an essay for Dissent, she plots the points where Losse’s experiences intersect with hers and the frustrating, often weird ways women are put in their place in a world run by “star brogrammers.”