DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #98: Monsters and Ghosts
You swam across a wide and wild sea and you made it all the way to the other side.
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...moreYou have arrived at the fire. Here’s the bread. Grab a hunk.
...moreTransformation isn’t a butterfly. It’s the thing before you get to be a pretty bug flying away.
...moreLet the dudes in the woods debacle bring you closer to your friends rather than force you apart.
...moreI don’t know exactly where we are now. I only know we’re at the place where the plot thickens.
...moreWe can all have a better life if we make one.
...moreThat mystery is not the curse of our existence; it’s the wonder.
...moreAside from the people I love, there is little I value more than my education.
...moreThere is so much humanity here, so much grace and good humor, so much strength and wisdom.
...moreMy question is simple, but complex: for what are you grateful?
...moreWhat is it you’re hungry for, dear one, and why?
...moreWhat if you allowed your God to exist in the simple words of compassion others offer to you?
...moreIn fear and in pain and in faith, we swim there, to wherever that is, in the direction of real life.
...moreReal change happens on the level of the gesture.
...moreI don’t know if your friendship is built to last a lifetime, but I know the game is worth the candle.
...moreFrom what garden or pot or crack in the pavement did you grow? How did you get your water?
...moreWe sing the song of parenthood in only the major notes. Were you there? Did you love full-throttle?
...moreI’m here not only to give you permission, but also to say that you must. There is no other way.
...moreThis isn’t a spotless life. There is much ahead, my immaculate little peach.
...moreIt’s almost never until later that we can draw a line between this and that.
...moreI meant to say there is no cure except to live the hell out of our lives, to take it apart, to put it back together, to dig it all up, and then fill the hole.
...moreA beautiful high-quality matte paper poster made up of quotes from everyone’s favorite advice columnist, Sugar!
...moreWhen people allow dark crazy thoughts to rule their actions and emotions they like to drag other people into that dark crazy space, too.
...moreYou have the power to withstand this sorrow. We all do, though we all claim not to.
...moreBecause wanting to leave is enough.
...moreAcceptance asks only that you embrace what’s true.
...moreSet your limits. State your needs. Respect your boundaries. Then step back.
...moreWhen it comes to our children, we do not have the luxury of despair.
...moreIn this very special Rumpus interview, Lidia Yuknavitch interviews our beloved Sugar.
...moreLet whatever mysterious starlight that guided you this far, guide you onward into whatever crazy beauty awaits.
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