My gynecologist won’t stop bothering me about getting a genetic test done. ...more
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Some reflections on my first Mother’s Day. ...more
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Rumpus editors share a Mother’s Day reading list to celebrate mothers in all their complexity!
Tags: A River of Stars, Alexis Pauline Gumbs, All Adults Here, All My Mother's Lovers, All You Can Ever Know, Belabored, Bestiary, Camille Dungy, Camille T. Dungy, Chelsea Bieker, Chelsea Rathburn, China Martens, Dani McClain, Emma Straub, Erin Khar, Godshot, Guidebook to Relative Strangers, Hinge, Ilana Masad, K Ming Chang, Leah Naomi Green, Little Gods, Lydia Kiesling, lyz lenz, Mai’a Williams, Mary-Kim Arnold, Memorial Drive, Meng Jin, Michele Filgate, Molly Spencer, Mother Winter, Mother's Day, Motherhood So White, Natasha Trethewey, Nefertiti Austin, Nicole Chung, Obit, Revolutionary Mothering, Sophia Shalmiyev, Still Life with Mother and Knife, Strung Out, The Fish & The Dove, The Fish and The Dove, The Golden State, The More Extravagant Feast, vanessa hua, Victoria Chang, We Live for the We, What My Mother and I Don't Talk About, What to Read When
Michele Filgate discusses WHAT MY MOTHER AND I DON’T TALK ABOUT.
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Rumpus editors share a Mother’s Day reading list to challenge traditional views of motherhood!
Tags: A Life's Work, A River of Stars, Ada Limon, Adrienne Rich, After Birth, Alexis Pauline Gumbs, alison bechdel, All You Can Ever Know, Ararat, Are You My Mother, Barbara Almond, Blackacre, Boy Snow Bird, Camille Dungy, Catherine Wagner, Chelsea Rathburn, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, China Martens, Dani McClain, Dear Ijeawele, Dept. of Speculation, elena ferrante, Elisa Albert, Emily Rapp, Everything Is Flammable, Gabrielle Bell, Gabrielle Oliveira, gender inequality, gender roles, Good Bones, Guidebook to Relative Strangers, Helen Oyeyemi, Irina Reyn, James McBride, Jennifer Givhan, Jenny Offill, Jodie Patterson, Landscape with Headless Mama, Linda Gray Sexton, Lita Judge, Louise Glück, Lydia Kiesling, Maggie Nelson, Maggie Smith, Mai’a Williams, Maria Dahvana Headley, Mary's Monster, Maya Angelou, Mom & Me & Mom, Monica Youn, Mother Country, Mother Winter, Mother's Day, motherhood, Motherhood So White, mothering, mothers, Nefertiti Austin, Nicole Chung, Not for Mothers Only, Of Woman Born, Rachel Cusk, Rachel Zucker, reading list, reading recommendations, Rebecca Wolff, Revolutionary Mothering, Rumaan Alam, Searching for Mercy Street, Secret Daughter, Shara Lessley, Sheila Heti, Shilpi Somaya Gowda, Sophia Shalmiyev, Still Life with Mother and Knife, That Kind of Mother, The Argonauts, The Bold World, The Carrying, The Color of Water, The Days of Abandonment, The Explosive Expert's Wife, The Golden State, The Mere Wife, The Monster Within, The Still Point of the Turning World, vanessa hua, We Live for the We, What to Read When
We’ve got the perfect last-minute gifts for the literary moms in your life!
Do I have a public self that is separate from my private self? I’m not so certain about that. ...more
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[A]fter Jonah died, I quit making promises to my children because I break them. They forgive me. But I fail to offer that grace to myself. So, I don’t make promises. ...more
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We here at The Rumpus matriarchy are celebrating all of our feminist “mothers” this Mother’s Day!
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“So go! Go forth into the world!”
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Each bug in the water is one less bug on my fruit, I tell myself, ignoring the truth: under the soil, another is born. ...more
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I will always feel a little broken. Intellectually, I know her disease is “not my fault.” But I’m her mother. I will always partially feel the blame. ...more
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I long to learn from my darkest teachers, feel the stab of their spectacular rejection. Perhaps I feel most alive when I’m hurting. ...more
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Shirley Jackson’s bone-chilling story “The Lottery” is probably the last thing anyone wants to associate with Mother’s Day, yet her lurking plot twists and sharp character insights are the perfect tools to write about parenting. In this month’s Slate Book Review, Dan Kois explains how Jackson’s books depicted family life well before any of us […]
Saeed Jones published a book of poems, Prelude To Bruise. Over at Buzzfeed, he’ll tell you why he wrote them, too: “My mother had a fatal heart attack the night before Mother’s Day in 2011. The experience of losing her broke me down. I quit my job teaching high school English and pretty much locked […]
Every holiday has its parallel griefs, as much for what isn’t present as for what is. In the New Yorker, Ruth Margalit writes beautifully about experiencing Mother’s Day, after her mother is gone: Meghan O’Rourke has a wonderful word for the club of those without mothers. She calls us not motherless but unmothered. It feels right—an ontological […]
Happy Mother’s Day. And a big hug to Dawn Cave, the mother who gave us the King of The Bad Seeds. Thank you, Dawn, and thank you, Calliope. Calli-a-who? Calliope was the mother of the greatest musician of all time, Orpheus. So it’s quite proper that Nick would turn some Greek mythology on its head […]
We hope you were so busy taking your mamas out to brunch and showering them with love and appreciation that you simply had no time for The Rumpus this weekend. We celebrated Mother’s Day with two very different interviews that ended up being the same in many ways.
A day of celebration for many, Mother’s Day is a more complex holiday for people who have lost their mothers–or their children.
“Back when my son was three I took him to Downtown Brooklyn. He pointed to a sign, and said ‘The – King’s – Store.’ I had no idea he could read.” Artists Jon Cotner and Claire Hamilton spoke with moms on the streets of Brooklyn, gathering the “memorable moments of their motherhood.”
At Ebony, Saeed Jones reflects on the vastness of grief as the one-year anniversary of his mother’s death approaches. “Now, though I sometimes cry, I more often feel a sense of awe at the depth of my connection to my mother. Perhaps this wonder is how I know that ten months and more have passed […]