Often well-intentioned cis folks like myself feel kind of overwhelmed by all there is to know and, not wanting to sound ignorant or hurtful, just kind of keep to the sidelines. But it doesn’t take a degree in gender studies to be a trans ally (nor does it require you to have an LGBTQ friend)....more
This essay, from Valley of the Dommes, is an un-flinching look at a relationship between a dominant woman who enjoys consensual emotional sadism and a submissive male with extreme desires and unsafe urges. It might be too graphic for many people but it’s an illuminating read that sheds light on more “vanilla” relationships in unexpected ways....more
In the final months of a nearly six-year BDSM relationship—the most satisfying relationship of my life—a line was crossed. My Master (a stripper and porn star at the time) violated my safe word, and I knew in that instant that it was the beginning of the end....more
Last month I reached out to LA-based expat Anna Span, an English porn producer (and one-time Liberal Democrat candidate) who awhile back, fought the UK’s ban on showing female ejaculation in porn—and won! I was anxious to hear her take on the recent crackdown on sadomasochistic practices in adult films, specifically whether “BDSM-themed art porn” is technically even legal in the UK nowadays....more
Jamie Dornan visited a dungeon to help him get into the starring role in 50 Shades of Grey. Here’s what the open minded actor had to say about it:
I went there, they offered me a beer, and they did… whatever they were into… I was like: ‘Come on guys I know I’m not paying for this but I am expecting a show.’ It was an interesting evening.