Supposedly, the best way to master a foreign language is to fall in love with a native speaker. Language, in delineating a boundary that can be transgressed, is full of romantic potential. … If first languages are reservoirs of emotion, second languages can be rivers undammed, freeing their speakers to ride different currents.
Posts Tagged: romance
Valentine’s Day, the annual celebration of romance, named after a martyred saint who doesn’t have anything to do with love, is almost here. In recognition of the holiday, The Cut is providing a refreshing counterpoint to the flowers-and-chocolates narrative with “True Romance: five days of stories about love as it’s actually lived,” which includes a tale of loving a con artist, the story of a shotgun wedding, and a simultaneously depressing and uplifting account of romance after ten years of marriage (a highly recommended read)....more
When you think of romance, you probably think Romeo and Juliet, Pride and Prejudice, Gone With the Wind, Wuthering Heights—or anything by Nicholas Sparks if you’re into more modern fare. These famous love stories, spread across centuries, have one thing in common: they’re all about heterosexual couples....more
The role that seems to me most comfortable is not that of Wife, but that of the Other Woman. And in that role I am good, because I have never for a moment expected or wanted to wreck anyone’s marriage.
Over at Granta, Diana Athill writes a moving essay about life, relationships, and her education in both....more
For Aeon, Polina Aronson writes on the different “romantic regimes” of the world, with “regime” defined as the cultural, economic, and sociological systems behind how we engage in relationships. Aronson compares the Western “Regime of Choice” with the regime in Russian culture that, until recently, bore little resemblance to one based on choice but rather on fate:
The most important requirement for choice is not the availability of multiple options.
I very much desire to make your acquaintance. If agreeable please return this card, appointing a time and place for interview, on the other side.
Before Tinder or texting, people flirted the old-fashioned way: with escort cards. Messy Nessy Chic looks at the tools of some 19th century pick-up artists....more
Scenario: you are on the train, you are sitting across from a man in a baseball cap reading, say, White Teeth, and in a matter of seconds you’ve visualized an entire literary life with him (the next stop, he gets off, and that future crumbles)....more
The earliest piece of advice my mother ever gave me was simply this: “Marry a man, Amy. Not a monkey.”...more
Happy sexin’ day, everyone!
Carolyn Kellogg at Jacket Copy points us in the direction of another person calling some sort of fiction dead....more