
“There’s something unique about being a member of the sex worker club, an instant camaraderie that bonds one to people who would otherwise be strangers, and this chemistry is something of which Sterry can’t get enough.”
You might be one of those people who doesn’t believe that sex workers are interesting. You may downright resent the cultural fascination with those who take money to titillate and masturbate strangers. Maybe you’re convinced that the only thing these men and women have going for them are passable looks and a wildly miscalibrated moral compass, and that paying attention to their déclassé life of the body glamorizes underachieving and turpitude.
If you belong to this camp, you probably don’t actually know any sex workers—at least none who would come out to you, and why would they? You’ve made up your mind about them already. You say things like: “Stripping is 1) a way to make a lot more cash than other “unskilled” service jobs [and] 2) incredibly degrading,” then add, “I’ve never been a stripper and I don’t know any strippers.” Never, for that matter, will you actually ever know anything about strippers, because they aren’t going to talk to you. Sex workers just don’t feel comfortable around you.
But many do feel comfortable with David Henry Sterry, a former gigolo best known for his memoir Chicken, and what they share with him should convince even the grouchiest non-believers that sex workers are an engaging, unusual tribe. In Hos, Hookers, Call Girls, and Rent Boys, Sterry and co-editor R.J. Martin have assembled an array of poems, interviews, and essays in a professed attempt to humanize sex workers. The mission is an admirable one, but raises the question of how many individuals who don’t already believe in sex workers’ humanity are going to pick up this hefty anthology.
It also masks the true motivating energy behind the collection, which is Sterry’s exuberant love of his fellow pros and his desire to celebrate their histories and personalities. There’s something unique about being a member of the sex worker club, an instant camaraderie that bonds one to people who would otherwise be strangers, and this chemistry is something of which Sterry can’t get enough. He refers frequently to this sense of kinship and stresses the uncommonness of his access to such candid and diverse workers. (This bragging about connections ultimately seems a little silly, given that many of the book’s contributors are well-established go-to writers like Audacia Ray, Annie Sprinkle, and Xaviera Hollander.)
Sterry’s enthusiasm also manifests as frequent, ill-advised introductions to pieces written by individuals whom he personally knows. As he details first meetings with contributors such as Surgeon and mochaluv, the focus is directed on himself rather than the person he’s touting, and it creates the impression that the writing itself isn’t good enough to hold one’s attention—that without knowing how beautiful Lorelei Lee or Carla Crandall or April Daisy White are, we won’t care about their essays.
We do care, though, because in addition to being porn stars and prostitutes, many of these people are talented writers with strong voices and precise observations. They’re natural born storytellers who manage to encapsulate an aspect of their experiences in wonderfully succinct (Sebastian Horsley: “Brothels make possible encounters of extreme intimacy without the intervention of personality.”) and stark, unsentimental ways (Brenda: “I have been arrested eight times for prostitution. It messed up my life.”)
Among the most effective pieces is Melissa Petro’s “Mariposa,” an essay on her time spent in Mexico as a white American stripper, an unforgettable script-flip of the highest order (our girls go there to make money?) Candye Kane reminisces about her sweet and genuine childhood friendship with an exotic dancer, while Sadie Lune explores the decadent excitement that comes from self-consciously inhabiting the role of an archetypal whore. Sterry himself reflects on his session with an 82-year-old woman, an encounter he initially dreads but eventually delights in: “I am making this happen. I have such a sense of joy and satisfaction.”
The standout offering, however, is Juliana Piccillo’s “Vice,” an exploration of her relationship with an invasive and needy client that rendered her alternately gratified and repulsed. Piccillo relentlessly mines the conflicting emotions that come with clients who want to play the white knight, a common but relatively undiscussed topic in most sex worker literature. “His fatherly concern co-existed with his hard-on,” she writes. “He left me to reconcile this.” She also admits to coming unintentionally (and practically unwillingly) while working in a job that generally disgusts her, and not wanting to leave in spite of hating the routine—paradoxes that many prostitutes shy away from acknowledging.
Some of these essays barely even explicitly address sex work, particularly those culled from SAGE (Standing Against Global Exploitation) workshops. The focus is instead on struggles with addiction, particularly clear and affecting memories, and current personal relationships. The inclusion of these selections may be the book’s greatest, albeit most subtle triumph. It serves as an invaluable reminder that hos and rent boys aren’t as prone to filtering their complex lives through the sieve of clients’ orgasms as are the civilians who debate about and condemn them.




7 responses
hey, thanks for the shout out. what’s interesting to me is that the New York Times, not the most ho friendly rag in the world, chose to put this on the cover of their Sunday book review section and wrote such glowing things about the book. http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/23/books/review/Bentley-t.html. so in fact, individuals who don’t already believe in sex workers’ humanity are in fact writing about it, and picking up this hefty anthology. i’m getting emails from civilians who have point blank told me they have never thought much about this, but are deeply moved by the book, and think about sex workers in a very different way. our editor at soft skull being one of those people. and it wasn’t my idea to write all those intros, the publisher insisted. i am a sentimental person, and in this age of world weary cynicism, people are giving me lots of shit about being too nice in the intros. but i would do it again. be nice in the intros. it’s all true, i wasn’t making it up. and i don’t think it makes it seem like their writing isn’t good because i tell what my experience was in meeting them. but what the hell, i’m probably wrong. happens all the time. anywayz, again, thanks for the smart, insightful and well written piece.
David,
My pleasure. I didn’t think the intros were too nice, I just didn’t think they were necessary. I sympathize with the urge to gush because I enthuse about all my amazing sex worker friends, too. And I’ve already encountered the loveliness of Surgeon and Sadie and some of your other contributors, so trust me, I’m not trying to argue that they aren’t great. Anyway, it’s awesome that the book is winning hearts and minds. Keep converting all the people out there who ought to know better but don’t.
It will undoubtedly be showing up next week in the NYT as well. The editors evidently claim affiliation with S.A.G.E., Standing Against Global Exploitation, since one of the editors used to have a position there; however, SAGE just contacted the NYT to correct this misinformation. The editors are no longer affiliated with SAGE – however, they did dishonor confidentiality of some clients currently and formerly engaged with SAGE. They also used stories written by one of those clients, without making any attempt to contact her first. I look forward to seeing NYT’s response to SAGE’s letter next week. The breach of confidentiality and complete lack of ethics on the part of the editors of this book is deplorable.
http://www.sagesf.org/
This either must be a wildly popular book or the publisher made a serious misjudgment as to how many copies to have printed. I went to two indie bookstores – no copies and 6-8 weeks before more will be in. I tried Barnes and Noble. No copies in any of their stores in a six county area and the earliest no shipment would be in in two weeks. Any idea where you can get a bootleg copy?
Wow, brutal attack on the book and the NYT review in the NYT letters to the editor this week. Makes me want to really pick up a copy of this baby.
I am one of the contributors; in fact, mine (just for identifying purposes) was printed as the first in the SAGE collection. Personally, I love the book and am, as always, devoted to putting the message out there–that the stigma needs to go, and actual understanding that people in or have been involved in the sex industry, are people with minds, hearts, souls, intellects, and everything that goes with it. I’m thrilled that this message is getting out, and not only that but getting THROUGH to people. I was there, in that basement, when we were all laughing and crying and going through all those raw emotions that were never meant, at the time, for anyone’s eyes or ears other than us, David and his great literary editor/writer wife. So–as far as the intros go–in my view, David splendidly captured the essence of these writers, in his great unique David-esque style. He certainly nailed me perfectly (no pun intended!)in my intro. A former SAGE client, I have difficulty seeing their problem with it–but am open to feedback. I will not pretend to know situations I don’t, but “deplorable”–the way supposedly “no effort made to contact” SO-AND-SO…I KNOW David did his best. pEACE OUT, CC
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