DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #71: The Ghost Ship That Didn’t Carry Us
I’ll never know and neither will you of the life you don’t choose.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #70: A Motorcycle With No One On It
Z is like a motorcycle with no one on it. Beautiful. Going nowhere.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #69: We Are All Savages Inside
But the people who don’t give up are the people who find a way to believe in abundance rather than scarcity.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #68: The Bad Things You Did
I don’t think your path to wholeness is walking backward on the trail.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #67: The Black Arc of It
But compassion isn’t about solutions. It’s about giving all the love that you’ve got.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #66: The Gentlest Possible Version of the Truth
Addiction is a tunnel that wakes you up in the middle of the night. Everything else happens out here in the light.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #65: Transcend
Art isn’t anecdote. It’s the consciousness we bring to bear on our lives.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #64: Tiny Beautiful Things
Be brave enough to break your own heart.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #63: The Magic of Wanting to Be
Love is our essential nutrient. Without it, life has little meaning.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #62: We Are Here to Build the House
Forget the man. Forget the money. It’s your own sweet self with whom you must rendezvous.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #61: The Sacred Thread
Limits are not punishments, but rather lucid and respectful expressions of our needs and desires and capabilities.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #60: The World Lit By Other People
We don’t reach the mountaintop from the mountaintop. We start at the bottom and climb up. Blood is involved.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #59: The Holidays are Hell(ish) Edition
Boundaries teach people how to treat you and they teach you how to respect yourself.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #58: The Light That Just Entered the Room
Your letter is a litany of contradictions, much to my relief. It tells me there is a space between what’s perceived and what’s possible.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #57: That Ecstatic Parade
You mustn’t live with people who wish to annihilate you.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #56: Ménage à Trois
Your body knows what it’s hungry for. Feed it.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #55: The Empty Bowl
Why is there no word for this feeling?
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #54: The Lusty Broad
The question is how would your life be transformed if you chose to love this time for once with all your intelligence?
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #53: “A Closed-Circuit System”
Is there any group of people on the planet more eagle-eyed than eighth graders? I think not
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #52: Reach
t. There aren’t three options. There is only one.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #51: No Mystery About Sperm
Not a single one of us knows what the future holds.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #50: Strange Proposal
Snakes. Hummingbirds. Perhaps a polar bear.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #49: The Locked Cock
She gets to choose too. She’s a person.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #48: Write Like a Motherfucker
I want to know what you have inside you. I want to see the contours of your second beating heart.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #47: The Reckoning
Our kids deserve that, don’t they? To be loved shimmeringly? Yes, they do. So let’s get to it.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #46: Beauty and the Beast
Dear Sugar, I’m an average twenty-six-year-old man, exceptional only in that I’m writing to an Internet advice columnist and that I’m incredibly ugly. I don’t hate myself, and I don’t have body dysmorphia. I was born with a rare blood disorder that has had its way with my body from a young age. It has […]
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #45: Thwack, Thwack, Thwack
Give him a peek at whatever would make you slam the door shut if he walked in and caught you in front of the mirror.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #44: How You Get Unstuck
Dear Sugar, About eighteen months ago, I got pregnant. In a move that surprised both my boyfriend and me, we decided we wanted to keep the baby. Though the pregnancy was unplanned, we were really excited to become parents and the child was very much loved and wanted. When I was six and a half […]
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #43: Unrolling
It’s time to unbind, my innocent little peach. It’s time to evolve.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #42: No is Golden
But as you are surely aware, forgiveness doesn’t mean you let the forgiven stomp all over you once again.
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