DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #71: The Ghost Ship That Didn’t Carry Us
I’ll never know and neither will you of the life you don’t choose.
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...moreZ is like a motorcycle with no one on it. Beautiful. Going nowhere.
...moreBut the people who don’t give up are the people who find a way to believe in abundance rather than scarcity.
...moreI don’t think your path to wholeness is walking backward on the trail.
...moreBut compassion isn’t about solutions. It’s about giving all the love that you’ve got.
...moreAddiction is a tunnel that wakes you up in the middle of the night. Everything else happens out here in the light.
...moreArt isn’t anecdote. It’s the consciousness we bring to bear on our lives.
...moreBe brave enough to break your own heart.
...moreLove is our essential nutrient. Without it, life has little meaning.
...moreForget the man. Forget the money. It’s your own sweet self with whom you must rendezvous.
...moreLimits are not punishments, but rather lucid and respectful expressions of our needs and desires and capabilities.
...moreWe don’t reach the mountaintop from the mountaintop. We start at the bottom and climb up. Blood is involved.
...moreBoundaries teach people how to treat you and they teach you how to respect yourself.
...moreYour letter is a litany of contradictions, much to my relief. It tells me there is a space between what’s perceived and what’s possible.
...moreYou mustn’t live with people who wish to annihilate you.
...moreYour body knows what it’s hungry for. Feed it.
...moreWhy is there no word for this feeling?
...moreThe question is how would your life be transformed if you chose to love this time for once with all your intelligence?
...moreIs there any group of people on the planet more eagle-eyed than eighth graders? I think not
...moret. There aren’t three options. There is only one.
...moreNot a single one of us knows what the future holds.
...moreSnakes. Hummingbirds. Perhaps a polar bear.
...moreShe gets to choose too. She’s a person.
...moreI want to know what you have inside you. I want to see the contours of your second beating heart.
...moreOur kids deserve that, don’t they? To be loved shimmeringly? Yes, they do. So let’s get to it.
...moreDear Sugar, I’m an average twenty-six-year-old man, exceptional only in that I’m writing to an Internet advice columnist and that I’m incredibly ugly. I don’t hate myself, and I don’t have body dysmorphia. I was born with a rare blood disorder that has had its way with my body from a young age. It has […]
...moreGive him a peek at whatever would make you slam the door shut if he walked in and caught you in front of the mirror.
...moreDear Sugar, About eighteen months ago, I got pregnant. In a move that surprised both my boyfriend and me, we decided we wanted to keep the baby. Though the pregnancy was unplanned, we were really excited to become parents and the child was very much loved and wanted. When I was six and a half […]
...moreIt’s time to unbind, my innocent little peach. It’s time to evolve.
...moreBut as you are surely aware, forgiveness doesn’t mean you let the forgiven stomp all over you once again.
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