DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #72: The Future Has An Ancient Heart
Let whatever mysterious starlight that guided you this far, guide you onward into whatever crazy beauty awaits.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #71: The Ghost Ship That Didn’t Carry Us
I’ll never know and neither will you of the life you don’t choose.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #70: A Motorcycle With No One On It
Z is like a motorcycle with no one on it. Beautiful. Going nowhere.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #69: We Are All Savages Inside
But the people who don’t give up are the people who find a way to believe in abundance rather than scarcity.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #68: The Bad Things You Did
I don’t think your path to wholeness is walking backward on the trail.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #67: The Black Arc of It
But compassion isn’t about solutions. It’s about giving all the love that you’ve got.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #66: The Gentlest Possible Version of the Truth
Addiction is a tunnel that wakes you up in the middle of the night. Everything else happens out here in the light.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #65: Transcend
Art isn’t anecdote. It’s the consciousness we bring to bear on our lives.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #64: Tiny Beautiful Things
Be brave enough to break your own heart.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #63: The Magic of Wanting to Be
Love is our essential nutrient. Without it, life has little meaning.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #62: We Are Here to Build the House
Forget the man. Forget the money. It’s your own sweet self with whom you must rendezvous.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #61: The Sacred Thread
Limits are not punishments, but rather lucid and respectful expressions of our needs and desires and capabilities.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #60: The World Lit By Other People
We don’t reach the mountaintop from the mountaintop. We start at the bottom and climb up. Blood is involved.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #59: The Holidays are Hell(ish) Edition
Boundaries teach people how to treat you and they teach you how to respect yourself.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #58: The Light That Just Entered the Room
Your letter is a litany of contradictions, much to my relief. It tells me there is a space between what’s perceived and what’s possible.
...moreDEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #57: That Ecstatic Parade
Dear Sugar, I’m a twenty-one year old guy. I’m in college right now. Though I work full-time to pay for some of my bills, I’m still dependent on my parents for room and board. I also use their car. I have no problem with living with my parents—at least I wouldn’t if I wasn’t gay.
...moreDEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #56: Ménage à Trois
Hello sweet peas! I decided to whip out a few shortish answers this week instead of the usual longer, single column. There are three of them, all on the subject of sex.
...moreDEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #55: The Empty Bowl
Dear Sugar, I could be worse. That’s one of my father’s favorite sayings.
...moreDEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #54: The Lusty Broad
Dear Sugar, Sugah, Sage, I’m a spry 47 year-old feisty broad. For the past three years I’ve been deeply in love with a woman. The timing of our meeting was atrocious.
...moreDEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #53: “A Closed-Circuit System”
Dear Sugar, I’m kind of new in school and I want to make friends. All I ever hear is “just be yourself” and “just be friendly” and it’s not that easy on your second day of 8th grade.
...moreDEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #52: Reach
Dear Sugar, I was raised in the very conservative, Christian “deep south,” where I’ve discovered that my life has been sheltered from the views and lifestyles in other areas of the country.
...moreDEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #51: No Mystery About Sperm
Dear Sugar, I am a woman in my late 30’s and still single.
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A lot of people have taken to sending direct messages to Sugar on her Twitter feed. Instead of the regular question and answer column this week, Sugar answers multiple questions she’s received via DM:
...moreDEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #49: The Locked Cock
Dear Sugar, My lover is having an affair. He’s married. I’m not.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #48: Write Like a Motherfucker
I want to know what you have inside you. I want to see the contours of your second beating heart.
...moreDEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #47: The Reckoning
Dear Sugar, I am the lucky mama of one darling baby and oh, how I treasure every moment! Unfortunately—or fortunately, depending on how you look at it—the baby’s daddy does not follow suit on treasuring every moment.
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Our ever more famous advice columnist, Sugar, has started a Google Group. What do you get if you join the group? We don’t know. Probably a notice about that week’s Sugar column. But probably more than that. It’s too soon to say. And anyway, you can unsubscribe at any time.
...moreDEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #46: Beauty and the Beast
Dear Sugar, I’m an average 26-year-old man, exceptional only in that I’m writing to an Internet advice columnist and that I’m incredibly ugly. I don’t hate myself, and I don’t have body dysmorphia. I was born with a rare blood disorder that has had its way with my body from a young age.
...moreDEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #45: Thwack, Thwack, Thwack
Dear Sugar, Two days ago my boss let me out of my shift early. I tried calling my boyfriend on the phone but he didn’t answer. When I got home and opened the door to our apartment, I found him standing in front of our full-length mirror in my panties.
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DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #44: How You Get Unstuck
Dear Sugar, About eighteen months ago, I got pregnant. In a move that surprised both my boyfriend and me, we decided we wanted to keep the baby. Though the pregnancy was unplanned, we were really excited to become parents and the child was very much loved and wanted. When I was six and a half […]
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